Expectations - The Destroyer Of Relationships

Expectations - The Destroyer Of Relationships

Expectations – those darn things that we seem to allow to run amuck in all areas of our lives. The problem is that expectations have a nasty habit of ruining our goals, our dreams and our desires. This is especially true when it comes to our expectations of ourselves and our relationship with others. Including the sacred relationships we have with our children. When we hold expectations about how others (and ourselves) “should” act, behave and live we are essentially projecting our own issues, insecurities and values onto another person.

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How I Discovered A Philosophy That Helped Me Parent Better

How I Discovered A Philosophy That Helped Me Parent Better

Before I even planned on having kids, I always had this vision of how I would parent. There is a little known fact that every new generation of parents evolve from the way they were raised. Why? Simply because there were parts from all of our childhoods that we knew we didn’t like and therefore we resolved to do things differently when it was our turn to have children. For me, I knew that I wouldn’t use punishments, spanking or timeouts with my children.

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Siblings - Introductions, Love and Rivalry

Siblings - Introductions, Love and Rivalry

One of the things I was concerned about when I was pregnant with my second child; was how my first child was going to react to his new siblings’ arrival. There is so much literature out there on sibling rivalry and how to ensure your siblings get along. To be honest I have read maybe five pages on the topic. Why? Well firstly I am a sibling myself – the eldest of three to be exact. So I do know what it is like. Plus one of the areas of personal growth I have experienced since becoming a Mum, is to simply go with the flow, trust myself and take things moment-by-moment.

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I'm NOT Sleep Deprived and I Have a Newborn & Toddler

I'm NOT Sleep Deprived and I Have a Newborn & Toddler

I get asked a lot by family and friends how my children sleep. Do they wake up during the night? How long do they sleep for? When do they go to bed and get up? My response for the last 3 years has been generally the same; 7.30pm-7am is on average the hours my eldest sleeps and he doesn’t get up during the night. Obviously that can vary depending on what occurrences are also going on in our lives. After the questioner has this information they ask what the hell I do to get that much sleep. My answer; I co-sleep or more specifically, bed-share.

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"Embrace" Who You Are and Shine For Your Children

"Embrace" Who You Are and Shine For Your Children

At the end of last year, when I was 8 months pregnant, I went to a screening of Embrace the documentary. It is based on a movement about positive body image, founded by Taryn Brumfitt. While I have had my share of body image issues, they have been quite mild compared to some. The messages conveyed in this documentary and Taryn’s book of the same name, still struck a cord and moved me to tears.

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Being Present With Our Children

Being Present With Our Children

There are many things I have learnt about the world and myself since becoming a parent. One of those things has been how important it is to form strong, loving connections with your children. This pure connection not only helps you bond with your child, but can also be used when your child feels painful emotions such as anger, frustration and powerlessness which can often result in tantrums and aggression.

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Time Out Vs Pure Connection: Which Would You Choose?

Time Out Vs Pure Connection: Which Would You Choose?

Time outs are quite a common occurrence in today’s parenting world. Parents often use this method when their child will not cooperating or their behaviour is deemed inappropriate. However, often with out even realising it, this method is actually doing more damage to your child and could in fact be contributing to their acting out behaviour.

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Why Saying "You're Ok" Is Not Ok

Why Saying "You're Ok" Is Not Ok

I will be the first to admit that I have said “you’re ok” in the past. The most notable time was immediately after my son was born. I held him in my arms and said to him a few times “you’re ok” as he screamed his little pink face off. However, since then I have learnt that this is not the best thing to say to someone, especially a child. While it may seem meaningless and you’re probably wondering either what the hell is she talking about or she doesn’t know what she is talking about? Well I’m about the get into the reason why saying “you’re ok” is actually far from ok.

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