Discovering Your Purpose

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What is Purpose?

“You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously.”

Steve Maraboli

“The purpose of life is a life of purpose.”

-Robert Byrne

“…a clear purpose – a meaningful goal or mission that connects us with other human beings.”

Dan Millman

Basically, our life purpose is what we are here to do and it always involves helping other people. When you live true to yourself with love, compassion and joy you will touch the lives of others wherever you go. Many people look for their purpose in their career, however sometimes it is not your actual job that is your purpose but rather who and how you interact with others. Your purpose also does not necessarily mean to be rich and famous. It could be as simple as learning compassion, forgiveness or honesty.

For example what does a mechanic, checkout assistant, doctor, lawyer and painter all have in common?

They all help people whether that is doing what is required of them by their job, simply smiling at a customer who has had a bad day, saying something at the right moment to a stranger who is depressed or holding a door open.

In order to change and help others, though you fist need to change and help yourself. As Ghandi famously said “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”

Our subconscious knows what we are here to do, even if we don’t consciously know. Our life purpose does not involve any unnecessary struggle but it does require challenges and tests. Why? Because if it was easy how would we progress in life to be a better person? You can visualize this journey as a mountain there may be rugged terrain, steep climbs but once you get to the top the view is incredible.

 

How Do We Discover Our Purpose?

We all have free will, so you do have choices in everything you do. However, you are here for a reason and when you find that purpose your heart will sing and things will have a tendency to fall into place.

Generally, you know you’re on the right track with your purpose when you are doing, acting and being something you are truly passionate about.

But what if you don’t feel that way? What if you feel lost and confused? Then what can you do? Well there are a wide variety of tools out there that can point you in the right direction and give you an idea of what you’re good at. Some of the tools I use and love are astrology, numerology, synchronicity and intuition. 

 “We are born at a given moment, in a given place, and like vintage years of wine, we have the qualities of the year and of the season in which we are born.”

Carl Jung

Have you ever wondered about the significance of your birth date, time of birth and place of birth? Could it be that we actually choose our own birth date and time before we are even born? This is something I personally believe. I have a 15 month old and I was given a due date by my midwife, but once the time had come around, no amount of willpower or natural intervention would make him come here sooner. I had to surrender to the fact that he wanted to arrive when he wanted to, on his terms, not mine. On the date and time we all chose to be born the planets were in a particular alignment, the numbers of our birthday and the letters of our names all have a rhyme and reason. We can use these as clues, arrows and guidance in our search for what our purpose is in life.

 

Astrology

Astrology uses your date, time and place of birth discover the alignment of the planets and the stars at your exact moment of birth. Every planet and star constellation in this galaxy has a particular energy and frequency that influences who you are and what you will do. Yes, that may sound a bit daunting and unusual to think the planets have that kind of an impact on your life. Astrology is an ancient art and the world’s oldest science, dating back millennia ago. Back then humans were more in tune with the cosmos and the cycles of the Earth. The primary reason Astrology exists is to answer questions about you. It holds out the promise that you do not have to pass through life reacting blindly to experience, that you can within limits direct your own destiny and in the process reach a truer self-understanding. There are many different types of charts in Astrology; the one that we are most interested in for discovering our purpose is the Natal Chart. This chart maps out your life from the time you were born, what paths resonate most with you, some likes and dislikes and how you are likely to interact with the world around you. Like I said this is all based on the planetary and constellation alignment of your birth and how the planets relate to each other at that exact moment in time.

Numerology

Numerology is another popular tool used to discover what your purpose is in life. However, while this method does also use your time of birth, it focuses just on the numbers of your birthday. It can also look at the letter in your name and using numbers that correspond to particular letters add those letters up to give you more insight into your life. Many people don’t realise that your name has as much influence on your life as your birthday. Philosophers and theorists believe that you are the one that chooses your name before you are born. How is this possible? Well, on a subconscious level your parents receive this name and this name just sticks with them and that is what they decide to call you.

Numerology dates back to the Pythagorean school of ancient Greece, where it has been used as a tool ever since to understand the forces that shape the human personality. In exploring the fundamentals of form and frequency, Pythagoras discovered the relationships between mind and matter, and pointed to hidden numerical patterns that served as keys to unlocking secrets of the psyche.

An example of how you would add the numbers is your birthday:

12 October 1999

1 + 4 + 1 + 0 + 1 + 9 +9 + 9 = 32

3 + 2 = 5

Therefore your life purpose number is 5.

Synchronicity

Synchronicity is a lesser-known tool that you can use to determine whether you are on the right path. So what is it? From a psychology standpoint it is a term coined by non other than, Carl Jung who believed it was a key element of spiritual awakening, as he termed it a “meaningful coincidence.”

The dictionary definition of synchronicity as it applies to psychology is “the simultaneous occurrence of casually unrelated events – and the belief that simultaneity has meaning beyond mere coincidence.” Basically, synchronicity is a mysterious event in which two or more things happen at the same time that seem directly related to each other, even though this would normally appear to be impossible. 

Jung’s most classic personal experience of synchronicity can be found in his work from 1952:

“A young woman I was treating had, at a critical moment, a dream in which she was given a golden scarab. While she was telling me this dream, I sat with my back to the closed window. Suddenly I heard a noise behind me, like a gentle tapping. I turned around and saw a flying insect knocking against the windowpane from the outside. I opened the window and caught the creature in the air as it flew in. It was the nearest analogy to a golden scarab one finds in our latitudes, a scarabaeid beetle, the common rose chafer, which, contrary to its usual habits, had evidently felt the urge to get into a dark room at this particular moment. I must admit that nothing like it ever happened to me before or since.”

Personal experience:

This is a personal synchronous experience of mine. My husband and I were at my parents’ house last year for dinner. At the table we were discussing how both of us had never seen as owl in real life. On our drive home (which was only 3km away), we were about 500m from our driveway, when out of nowhere this beautiful snowy coloured owl flew in front of our car and landed in the middle of the road, where we were forced to break. It sat there for 30 seconds looking at us before it continued on its way. This experience has stuck with both of us ever since it happened. What does it mean? Well at the time we were both reading a book on synchronicity so we were being more aware and mindful about our surroundings and seemingly coincidental events. We were looking out for signs that we were on the right track with our lives. The owl landing in front of our car ON PURPOSE, within an hour of us talking about never seeing an owl in real life told us without an doubt whatsoever, that we were doing what we were meant to be doing at that point in time with our lives.

Other examples can include patterns of numbers such as the time on the clock (11.11, 3.33, 5.55,etc). These numbers by themselves aren’t that telling, however, when you find yourself randomly looking at the clock and these numbers keep showing up again and again; well attention must be paid. When this happen ask yourself; “what was I just thinking about, where am I, where am I going, who is with me?” When you ask yourself these questions and patterns begin to emerge, take note and see what it is telling you.

Has it ever happened to you, that you were talking to someone about something say for example that you really need to eat more healthy, and then soon after you get onto Facebook and the first thing you see is an article on taking control of your health? This is synchronicity. In this particular example the Universe is saying yes, it is time that you ate healthier and here’s where you can begin.

 

Intuition - Do what you love, love what you do

A final example I will share with you today is a tool each and everyone of us already has inside of us, and most of us already use it on a regular basis. I’m of course talking about intuition. Some people refer to their intuition as their instinct, gut feeling, inner voice, sixth sense or what resonates with you. It is an inner knowing that you can’t really explain, you just know. Albert Einstein said that it is our most valuable asset and one of our most unused senses.

So how can this help us find our purpose?

When you are on the right path for you, it will feel good, it will resonate with every fibre of your being and you will passionate and happy about it. All this doesn’t necessarily mean there won’t be any challenges, but it means that when there are, you will take them in your stride and approach them with love, determination and persistence in order to continue on your way.

A very common example of your intuition at work is when the phone rings and you know who it is before you answer. The more you acknowledge your intuition the stronger and more accurate it becomes. Some ways to access your intuition is through by being present and aware or starting a dream or synchronicity journal. Another fun activity is to get a deck of cards place the deck face down and say whether the card is black or red before flipping it over. However, the most effective way is to meditate. When you still your mind, it can no longer come up with what ifs, shoulds and shouldn’ts or any other form of self-sabotaging behaviour. You can then focus on your awareness and ask questions (specific is best). For example accepting a new job, moving to a new area, starting a new relationship. Once you ask these questions just sit and see and feel whatever comes to you. Dreams are also very informative, so before you go to bed at night you can set the intention that you will get the answer to your question by the time you wake up in the morning, and that you will remember the dream.

Exercise:

Close your eyes and now imagine yourself in a quiet place in nature, surrounded by beauty and wonder. Make this image as vivid as possible by using all of your senses. Spend a few moments simply enjoying this place in your mind’s eye. Then, imagine a treasure chest nearby. You feel excited as you approach the chest because you know that the answer to your question is inside. Take a deep breath and imagine yourself opening the treasure chest. Don't try to control this, let your intuitive mind guide you. Trust that whatever is inside the chest is your answer. You might receive a very clear answer or you might get a symbol that doesn't make logical sense to you. Either way, it is exactly what you need. Trust that if the answer is not clear right away, it will become clear over time. Take a deep breath in, and out, now open your eyes.

Over the next few days, be open to feelings, songs, conversations, or any synchronistic events. Be patient! If you become frustrated or try to force an answer, you will block the flow of intuition. 

A very important note: all these tools cannot transform your life, only you can make the changes to become the person you want to be.

Part 2: Live The Life You Want – coming soon to this very blog.

Affirmation:

I live my life with purpose and I allow the Universe to flow freely through me directing me to where I need to be. My intentions are pure and positive; and I notice the synchronicities in my life, always following my intuition.

Love and Gratitude,

Steph