PLAY Is My Choice of Discipline

PLAY Is My Choice of Discipline

My eldest son who is almost 5 years old tends to get overwhelmed and overstimulated easily. These feelings are then externalised as screaming, hitting and throwing. I’ve had various people tell me to threaten him, bribe him, send him to his room and deprive him of things he loves. All of these are techniques I told myself before I became a parent that I would not do. Why? Well, for two reasons. One, it didn’t sit well with me, and two, because I have read the scientific research which demonstrates these ways are not effective and in the long run can even be harmful to the parent-child relationship.

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Expectations - The Destroyer Of Relationships

Expectations - The Destroyer Of Relationships

Expectations – those darn things that we seem to allow to run amuck in all areas of our lives. The problem is that expectations have a nasty habit of ruining our goals, our dreams and our desires. This is especially true when it comes to our expectations of ourselves and our relationship with others. Including the sacred relationships we have with our children. When we hold expectations about how others (and ourselves) “should” act, behave and live we are essentially projecting our own issues, insecurities and values onto another person.

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"Embrace" Who You Are and Shine For Your Children

"Embrace" Who You Are and Shine For Your Children

At the end of last year, when I was 8 months pregnant, I went to a screening of Embrace the documentary. It is based on a movement about positive body image, founded by Taryn Brumfitt. While I have had my share of body image issues, they have been quite mild compared to some. The messages conveyed in this documentary and Taryn’s book of the same name, still struck a cord and moved me to tears.

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How To Schedule Your "Me Time"

How To Schedule Your "Me Time"

Today’s society is more full and jam-packed with obligations than it has ever been in any other point in history. We are busy with our jobs, housework, families and extracurricular activities. This doesn’t leave much time to really nurture and take care of ourselves. One thing I have learnt over the past few years, more so recently since running my own daycare is that your “me time” HAS TO BE YOUR NON-NEGOITIABLE. Medical research is constantly telling us that we are so stressed by our current lifestyles

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Social Media Detox

Social Media Detox

Social media; it is one of those things that can either be a blessing or a curse. It has the capability of keeping us in contact with people from all over the world, offering great networking opportunities and assists in business promotion. On the other hand, it is now classed as a modern addiction. People are on their phones, tablets and computers for such a significant amount of time that researchers are concerned about the social impact it is having on our personal and social lives and culture. It has also paved the way for “keyboard warriors” to take a stand and bully any person or view that does not match their own.

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Separation Anxiety: How To Make The Transition Easier

Separation Anxiety: How To Make The Transition Easier

As an Early Childhood Educator, I know all too well about separation anxiety in young children. It is a traumatic experience for the child, and also for the parent having to leave their child in the care of someone else.  This is a topic that comes up a lot, with parents and educators searching for solutions to the tears and tantrums that generally come from separation anxiety. So what is separation anxiety? Simply put it is when a child feels anxious when separated from their parent.

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Our Children Are Our Greatest Teachers

Our Children Are Our Greatest Teachers

We often think that it is our “job” to teach our children. To a certain extent it is. We need to teach them how to survive in this world. However, few of us realise that children can teach us…a freaking lot. This is something I know from knowledge I have gained and also personal experience with my own child and the children in my day care. I can say without even a slither of a doubt that the greatest teachers in my life – past and present – are the children that have crossed my path.

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Why My Super Power Was My Downfall: How Pen & Paper Saved My Life

Why My Super Power Was My Downfall: How Pen & Paper Saved My Life

Prior to September 2015, I would have liked to have said my life was organised with minimal stress. To an outsider it probably looked like I was the most organised person on the planet – I can thank being a Virgo for that trait. However, underneath the calm, collected and organised exterior my mind was a complete and chaotic shamble. You see if I had to name a Superpower I have, it would be my memory. I’m not sure if it would be classed as a photographic memory, but it would come close. Now with every Superpower comes a weakness.

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